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I’m a Feminist, but…

March 12, 2018

I’ve been listening to The Guilty Feminist podcast quite a bit recently and they start each show by all sharing reasons that have made them a guilty feminist that week. For example, I’m a Feminist, but I loved the 50 Shades of Grey movie. None of us can be perfect and it’s great way of showing that as hard as you try to be a feminist, it’s not easy to always act or think in the ‘right’ way. I wanted to share some of the reasons why I’m a Feminist, but…

I’m a Feminist, but when a lecturer at uni asked the class who was, I didn’t put my hand up.

I’m a Feminist, but sometimes I let men insist I walk through a door first even when I’m holding the door open for them.

I’m a Feminist, but Love Island was probably my favourite TV show last year.

I’m a Feminist, but sometimes I find it hard to explain to my boyfriend why women don’t have equal rights.

I’m a Feminist, but I hate groups of drunk girls. Unless I’m one of them.

I’m a Feminist, but I’m more than happy for someone to carry my stuff if I’m struggling.

I’m a Feminist, but I didn’t do anything to mark International Women’s Day. Apart from one lame tweet.

I’m a Feminist, but sometimes other feminists annoy me.

I highly recommend Deborah Frances-White’s podcast, it’s absolutely hilarious so be careful when listening in public!

Have you got any I’m a Feminist, but..’s to share ?

Lifestyle, My Life

Goodbye Facebook. It’s not me, it’s you. 

February 11, 2018

This year I’m giving myself the best Valentine’s gift. I’m deleting my Facebook account.

I’ve been thinking about doing this for a while so by deleting my account for Lent, I can see how I get on without it and then make a decision in 6 weeks time about whether the deletion is a permanent one. At this point, I think it might be.

So why Facebook? In all honestly, I don’t think I get any happiness from Facebook. Yeah, I get tagged in the odd funny meme and video but most of the time I’m scrolling past a load of content that I don’t really care about. I’ve had a few culls of Facebook ‘friends’ over the years to get rid of those random people you met in Freshers week or Sophie, who you sat next to in Year 9 Maths but I still get bored by my feed. It used to be full of status updates and photos that I was interested in but now it’s just endless videos that I don’t watch.

I considered deleting all my social media accounts for Lent but I actually enjoy Twitter and Instagram. I literally LOL at a lot of things on Twitter and am regularly amazed at the beautiful photography I see on Instagram. That’s the reason that I interact on these platforms and not Facebook. I can’t remember the last time I came off Facebook feeling better than I did when I clicked on the app. I honestly just scroll through the app out of habit and I’m looking forward to not doing that anymore. Why should I spend time doing something that doesn’t make me happy?

I’ve had a think about what I might miss about Facebook and nothing immediately springs to mind which probably speaks for itself. I’ve made the decision to keep my blog’s Facebook page as I want to be able to still share my posts with the people who follow the page but my personal account is going to be deactivated and I’m actually really excited to do it!

Goodbye Facebook. It’s not me, it’s you.

Lifestyle, My Life

Living Like It’s Your Last Day

January 11, 2018

I, like many other people it seems, recently read this post by Holly Butcher where she left one last message to the world before she sadly passed away. If you haven’t read it yet then I urge you to do so.

We all know that life is short but unfortunately it usually takes the loss of a loved one to make us realise just how fragile life is.

So what can we do? Is living each day as if it’s your last actually realistic?

Well I think that depends on what you would do on your ‘last day’. Would you spend all your money on a new car or would you want to spend time with your friends and family? When it comes to it, we’ve still got to work (girl got bills to pay) so most days will be normal. Average even. So here’s how I’m going to make the most of every day.

Don’t sweat the small stuff. If it won’t matter in a year, it doesn’t matter now.

Get outside more.

Appreciate the moment.

Really taste good food.

Put my phone away more on an evening.

Stop comparing myself to others.

Say yes to new experiences.

Ring my friends and family more.

Say ‘I love you’ more.

Recognise when I need to relax.

Not get obsessed with saving and stop feeling guilty when spending money on myself.

What are you planning on changing?

Oh and if you want to really make a difference, sign up to give blood and register to be an organ donor.

Enjoy life!

Lifestyle, My Life

Plans for 2018.

January 1, 2018


Hope your heads aren’t too sore and you make the most of the last day of the Christmas holidays by eating all the cheese and chocolate in sight. I’ve actually got tomorrow off work as well but we’re planning on taking the tree down which is sad. Secretly excited to dust and hoover the lounge again though. Adult life.

I was writing some events in our new calendar and it got me realising that there’s already a lot to look forward to this year. We’ve got tickets to Jake Bugg, Ed Sheeran, Wicked and the athletics in Birmingham.

This month I’ve signed up to the crazy challenge of running every day in January. Urggghh. I’ll be running a half marathon in March so I’m just thinking of it as good training. I’m putting myself through this for Mind as the January blues are a real thing for many of us and Mind offer amazing support to those suffering with their mental health. If you’d like to donate, please do so here.

I’ve mentioned on here before that I’ve been training to become a Business & Personal coach so this year will see me complete the qualification. I’m already putting my training to good use and I love coaching. I’d like to stretch myself and aim to take on some paying clients this year. Something which both scares and excites me!

Travel wise, I don’t have much planned so far. We’re in Glasgow at the moment and will be in Kent next week for a wedding. We’ve then got a family trip to Center Parcs booked for May but that’s all for now. I’m desperate for some sun so hopefully we can book a trip somewhere hot soon. We’ve  done quite a few city breaks in the last few years so hopefully we can explore some more of Europe this way.

So that’s my plans so far, what are your plans for 2018?

Lifestyle, My Life

Reflections on 2017.

December 28, 2017

How is it time to write this post already? I’ve been writing my ‘reflections’ posts since 2014 and I really enjoy looking back on the year and taking a moment to appreciate all that I’ve done.

So 2017. Full of Fake News, Brexit news, Trump news and a whole lot of worry that we’re on a brink of a nuclear war. You’ve got to look on the bright side though right? You could be that girl in Bristol who got stuck in a window trying to rescue the poo that she was trying to get rid of. Imagine.

I’ve had such a busy few years that when I was thinking about what I’ve done this year, there wasn’t anything that immediately came to mind. It’s been a fairly steady year. Same job, same house and a few more places ticked off the bucket list. Here’s a few of my highlights:

  • Celebrating various weddings with friends and family
  • Drinking beer in Bruges and actually enjoying it
  • Eating the best pasties in the world in Cornwall
  • Seeing the Northern Lights in Iceland
  • Starting my Post Grad course in Business & Personal Coaching
  • Finally decorating the living room
  • Feeling like a proud parent taking my Mum and Stepdad to the airport for their gap year
  • Seeing the Harry Potter play in London with my sister
  • Seeing Busted twice – still can’t believe that they’re back!
  • Attending numerous blog events and reviewing some of my favourite restaurants

Me and Stu are going to be in Glasgow for NYE so I’m looking forward to seeing in the year Scottish style! Hope you’ve all had a fantastic year. Thanks for staying with my blog – I’ve been blogging less recently but it’s good to see that people still read when I do occasionally post.

See you in 2018!

Blogging, Lifestyle, My Life

4 Years of Blogging

November 11, 2017

Happy 4th blog birthday to me! 

I can’t believe it was four years ago that I sat at home and decided to start this blog. I’d attempted to write a blog before, it was just after graduating and I thought I’d talk about what it was like to look for a job after uni when you didn’t really know what you wanted to do. I soon decided that going travelling was much more exciting than working and once me and Stu had booked our trip, I decided to write my very first blog post.

If you’ve been reading this blog since 2013 then you’d know that is used to be called ‘Frankie goes to…’ and each blog post was called the name of the place we were visiting at the time. This was because that my blog was just a way of writing about our travels and letting everyone at home know what we were up to. I had no idea how big the blogging community was and that blogging could even be a full time job. 

It was towards the end of 2014 that I discovered Bloglovin’ and a ton of blogs that I still love to read today. It was not long after this that Stu and I came home and suddenly I didn’t know what to write about any more. How does a travel blogger keep blogging when they’re not travelling? This was a question that I struggled with for a long time. I wanted to write more but I felt like I couldn’t write about something not travel related on my blog. Eventually I decided to not worry about fitting in a blogging niche and just write about anything I wanted. 

Writing about anything I wanted soon meant that I wasn’t happy with the ‘Frankie goes to…’ brand and I decided to change my blog name to my name instead. I was writing about all aspects of my life so I wanted my blog name to reflect that.

Blogging has created so many wonderful opportunities for me and I’m incredibly proud of my little corner of my internet. I may not have the best photography and I may go weeks and weeks without a single blog post but as long as blogging continues to bring me joy, I’ll still be here. 

Happy Birthday

Lifestyle, Lists, My Life

30 before 30

September 10, 2017

Two weeks ago I turned 26 and I’ve started thinking about what I would like to achieve and do before I’m 30. I’ve spoken before about the importance of setting goals but not putting pressure on yourself so I’m hoping giving myself 4 years will be plenty of time. And if I don’t tick everything off the list then I’m sure I’ll allow myself an extension…

1. Gain a qualification.

This is a bit sneaky as I’m actually starting my Post Graduate Certificate in Business and Personal Coaching this month, but starting is no guarantee of completion! I’ve got 3 years to complete the course so hopefully I’ll be a qualified coach before I’m 30.

2. Run another marathon.

I’ve entered the ballot for the London Marathon again so fingers crossed! If I don’t get in, I’ll look for another race. Potentially one abroad!

3. Visit New Zealand.

New Zealand is the country that got away for me and Stu. We always tell ourselves that we’ll visit one day and I think we need to make it happen.

4. Go skiing again.

As we’re on the subject of travel I should mention this one as well. I went skiing with school years ago and I’d love to try it again.

5. Have a paid coaching client.

At first, I’ll be using my coaching qualification at work but I’d like to explore either consulting to a business or having individual clients. Watch this space!

6.  Volunteer.

I’d like to help out at a charity event or volunteer for a charity in another way.

7. Learn how to do a French plait.

Confession time! I’m awful with my hair and I’d love to be able to do all the pretty braid styles that I see on Pinterest. Time to watch countless YouTube tutorials…

8. Go to an outdoor cinema screening. 

These look so much fun and is one of those things I never get around to booking. Definitely one for the summer though.

9. Get a new kitchen.

Or at least give it a freshen up. New kitchens are expensive but I reeeeeeeally want one!

10. Appear on TV.

Okay, this one is completely random but I’d love to be on a game show. I applied for The Vault a few years ago and got an audition but that’s as close as I’ve got. I’ve just got to keep trying!

11. Treat myself more. 

I’ve always been good at saving and I actually struggle to spend money. Any excuse to take something out of my basket and it’s gone. I’d like to get better at buying things for myself.

12. Visit Italy.

Everything about this country looks gorgeous and it’s really not that far from the UK.

13. Start my family tree.

I love History and this would be a great project to discover more about my family.

14. Complete a triathlon.

I always like to push myself to new challenges and a triathlon would be perfect.

15.  Bake more.

I love baking and definitely don’t do it enough. I’d like to challenge myself more and I’m feeling inspired by the last couple of episodes of Bake Off.

16.  Start Yoga.

I’ve had a little taster of yoga and I’d like to give it a go properly.

17. Upcycle some furniture. 

I like the idea of giving some furniture a new lease of life instead of it going to the bin. I usually start browsing the John Lewis website for new furniture so I think it would be fun to hunt around charity shops and Gumtree instead.

18. Change my hair.

I’ve had the same hairstyle for years and I’m desperate to do something different. Shorter? New colour?

19. Display pictures from our travels.

I’ve started the mammoth task of printing all the photos from our travels but we need to start framing some or making them into a canvas.

20. Try another festival. 

I’ve only ever been to Glastonbury so not sure if other music festivals will live up to my expectations. Maybe a food festival instead?

21. Visit New York. 

Pretty much all of this list is travel related but what’s life without travel? The Big Apple has been on my bucket list for a long time so my 30th would be a perfect excuse to get it ticked off.

22. Blog more. 

I need to make more time for my blog and increase the amount of posts I publish. Even one post a week seems too much to ask at the moment.

23. Add more recipes to our repertoire. 

You know everyone has a handful of go-to meals that they can easily make in the week? I’d like to mix them up a bit more.

24. Host Christmas Day at our house.

This one scares me but I’d like to be the host for Christmas Day. It definitely won’t be this year so that leaves me with three more years to prepare myself (and Stu).

25. Start a podcast. 

I like to listen to them and I’m tempted to start my own…

26. Race more.

I run quite a lot at my local running club but I don’t enter many races. I feel more motivated to run when I have a race in the diary so I’d like to do 4 a year from now on.

27. Visit the Warner Bros studios again.

I visited the Harry Potter studio tour a few years ago and I’m desperate to visit again. There’s so much more to see there now.

28. Read 30 new books.

I tend to read my favourite books over and over again (Harry Potter – I’m looking at you) so I want to challenge myself to read something different and hopefully discover some new authors in the process.

29. Say yes more. 

It’s too easy to get into a routine in life. I’d like to say yes to more opportunities and to not be afraid to step outside of my comfort zone.

30. Be happy.

I’m very happy in my life now and I hope that I still feel the same in 4 years time.

Lifestyle, My Life

Why Do We Always Ask Ourselves ‘What Next?’

May 22, 2017

Do you ever feel like your life has to follow a certain path just because that’s the way other people think it should be done? I’m talking education, get a good job, meet someone, buy a house, get engaged, get married, have a baby, have another one, keep pushing for that next promotion, retire, grandkids…. Then what?

Life goes quickly enough as it is and I’m sure we could all do without the pressure that we and others put on ourselves to be constantly moving towards the next milestone. So why do we do it?

I know I’m guilty of asking friends and colleagues when they think they’re get engaged, move out etc but I hate it when people ask me. ALL OF THE PRESSURE.

I’m trying to make a conscious effort not to ask these sort of questions because I’ve realised that it really doesn’t matter.

So what if you never get married? So what if you never have any kids or pop out a whole football team’s worth? So what if you rent all your life? IT’S YOUR LIFE.

Forget about what society thinks, people will judge you no matter what you do so you might as well enjoy your life.

Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s good to have goals but your life doesn’t have to follow a particular order. How boring would it be if everyone did the same thing?

There’s no need to compare or feel judged. Just do you and enjoy it.

Lifestyle, My Life

For the love of… Harry Potter!

January 2, 2017

Happy New Year! I thought I’d start the new year off with a series of blog posts about my little obsessions in life. I want to share with you what makes me happy and what makes me, me.

I’ve got to kick things off with the main man in my life after Stu, Mr Harry Potter. Oh, Harry. I read the first Harry Potter book when I was in Primary School and I haven’t looked back since. I was always desperate for J K Rowling to bring out the next instalment and then read each new book the day it was released. I couldn’t bear it if I accidentally found what happened before I had read a book so I locked myself away in my room and lost myself in Harry’s world. The books made me cry and made me laugh out loud and were a definitive part of my childhood. I loved reading the final chapter but it was hard to believe I would never read a new Harry Potter story again. I still re-read all of the books every year and enjoy them just as much as the first time.

I’ll always prefer the books to the films due to the how much the films miss out but the films still do J K Rowling’s stories justice. They’re the perfect films to have on in the background so you can dip in and out because you know the story so well. I visited the Harry Potter Studio’s a few years ago and the amount of detail in all the props and sets is phenomenal. So much time has been spent on everything, no matter how much screen time it would receive.

In March I finally get to see Harry Potter and The Cursed Child in London and I’m so excited. I read the script when it came out last year but I’ve heard it’s even better on the stage. I was really emotional reading the script and I couldn’t believe I was reading a new story after all these years. It was great that so many characters got a mention so we could find out what happened to them after the seventh book. I had a similar feeling watching Fantastic Beasts and Where To Find Them. It’s strange hearing that Harry Potter music again and hearing Dumbledore’s name mentioned in another film! I don’t think I’ll ever get sick of finding out more about the magical world so I’m glad that J K Rowling is showing no signs of stopping!

My sister is off to the Harry Potter Theme Park in Florida this year and I’m insanely jealous. One day I’ll make it but for now I’m more than happy to read my books over and over again.

Anyone for a Butterbeer?



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Reflections on 2016.

December 29, 2016

It’s been a funny old year hasn’t it? Social media has been full of negativity for 2016 and mostly because a few famous died rather than the actual atrocities that have been occurring through out the world. Globally, it’s been the year of the unexpected, whether we should have seen some events coming or not. Personally, 2016 has been a really good year. Last year was a bit all over place, trying to settle back in Bristol after a year travelling but this year has been a year of putting down roots.

Easter Weekend was spent with my Dad and Stepmum in London being tourists. We saw a play, visited a museum and experienced the London Dungeons. Nothing like being a tourist in your own country!

Back in April , Stu and I had an offer accepted on a house and we picked up the keys in July. I’m really proud of us for saving a house deposit in just over a year and I can’t thank our family and friends enough for all the help they’ve given us since we moved in. We’ve got a lot more work to do on the house so I think 2017 will be the year of DIY!

August saw a promotion at work and the realisation that I’m incredibly lucky to be in a job I enjoy. After being in a job that I hated, it’s really made me appreciate working with a supportive team who want you to succeed.

October was a month of travel. I loved discovering Amsterdam with Stu. It’s a beautiful city full of surprises and it was amazing to travel with Stu again. That was our first trip since Paris in January 2015 and we promised we wouldn’t leave it so long again. Later on in October was a surprise trip to Dublin for Stu’s Dad’s 60th. This was a jam packed 5 days full of quality family time.

To finish off the year I was nominated in two categories at the UK Blog Awards! This blog has always been a bit of fun for me, something I sometimes have loads of enthusiasm for and sometimes I can’t think of anything to write about. I was amazed to be nominated and very grateful for everyone who voted for me.

I hope 2017 is filled with just as many good times, there’s already a fair few events in the calendar so I think it’s going to be a busy one. Who needs a decorated living room anyway?